“If we want to succeed in life and bring about a more peaceful world, we must learn to control our emotions and not to be affected by a moment of anger.”
— Master Hsing Yun, “Don’t Get Mad, Don’t Get Even”
http://www.tricycle.com/meditation-buddhist-practices/calm-abiding-shamatha/dont-get-mad-dont-get-even
I know that when I get provoked, I find it very hard to not want to “get back” at that person. Lately, I’ve tried to just not send that note with the scathing remark. Let it sit, then go back to it and remove it. Granted, the angry energy was within me, but I did not transmit it out into the universe to to other people. Maybe that’s a good first step. Ideally, maybe, I can get to that stage where I can ignore or accept those moments.